Networking can feel frightening and embarrassing. But it doesn't have to. Discover easy networking tips for the networking haters.
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I love networking and making small talk with strangers. Said almost no one ever. Whether it's at large public events or in virtual spaces, networking can be frightening and embarrassing. However, it's possible to make new connections or revive old ones without feeling stressed or uncomfortable. Here are a few strategies to help you expand your own network. First, look for islands or small groups of people. If you despise walking into what can feel like an ocean of strangers, it's important to realize that it's not an ocean. It's really only little islands. People usually interact in groups of two. So try to spot a groupmate of an odd number. There's probably someone in that group who isn't a part of a conversation, and they're likely looking for a conversational partner. Next, networking doesn't have to involve meeting new people. Our existing networks are powerful and can become more impactful by reinvigorating dormant ties, connections you might not have seen in two or three years. Research shows that dormant ties, once revived, can provide their connections with more creative ideas and a trust that had endured within those relationships. So reach out to two or three dormant ties just to say that you're thinking of them. Sometimes you may have an ask or something you hope to get out of the conversation, but focus on simply reconnecting. Third, turn it into a game. Turning something from being scary to being fun is an effective way to change your behavior. For instance, if you're introverted, you can pretend to be an extroverted character in a video game and score points by talking to new people. This can distract us from the fear and paralysis that can come with the idea of having to introduce ourselves to people we've never met. And finally, don't stress yourself with preparing for small talk. Instead, try to find a mutual interest. Spend time thinking about the various activities you engage in, such as gardening, reading, or learning new technologies, which might be of interest to other people. Use these as a basis for conversation. And remember, talk about something fun rather than saying nothing but rain these past few days. Whether you are attending events in the real world or confined to the virtual realm, networking doesn't have to be scary or hard. Making just a few small changes can help you overcome your fears and engage with others in no time.